Sunday Inspiration & Links v.6

Hope you’re all having a lovely weekend! Here are a few things I’ve been loving this week.

-This weekend, YouTube has been hosting something really awesome and special called ‘The Project For Awesome’ which is basically a time for people to create videos supporting their favorite charities and collecting money from donations via YouTube. There are SO MANY amazing charities out there. I donated 30$ through www.dftba.com. If you’re a John Green fan, he’s selling off all the sharpies that he used to sign the 150 000 copies of his latest book with a signed letter of authenticity, and like every year he’s writing a novella on zombies, all proceeds going to the Project For Awesome as well.

You can learn more at:

www.projectforawesome.com 

And also check out John Green’s website HERE where he continuously posts amazing videos created for the project.

- I’ve recently joined Pinterest (thanks again for the invite, San!) You can add me as a friend HERE. I don’t have much yet, but I plan on fixing that very soon. So far I had a lot of fun going through Harry Potter tags. :)

- 7 snacks that heal. Love this.

- 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself. Nice little pep talk, that’s for sure!

- One of my all time favorite Albus Dumbledore quotes. Thank you Pinterest!

- Thank you Erin for this picture and quote. I think you took it from someone’s Etsy, and I took it from you. I love Conan and I love this quote:

- One of my new favorite things to read are Jen’s ‘Scarlet Guides’ on her blog. One of my current favorites? Scarlet’s Guide To… What Not To Do in Dubai. Hilarious stuff!

Leave me links in the comments to your favorite must-read blogs. My Google Reader is feeling really empty these days and I need some new great reads. Leave me your link or your faves and I’ll be sure to check them all out! 

Happy Sunday! What’s inspiring you today on the internet?

A second letter to the new boy in my life

Dear Cris,

Last night, you had your very FIRST sleepover. Ever! You came and spent the night with me and your grandma, and despite the middle-of-the-night waking up, we loved having you here. I was so overwhelmed to just spend all this uninterrupted time with you, I could hardly stand it. Your sleepover had me thinking and talking about you all day, so I thought I’d give you a little update on what’s been going on since the day you got here.

It literally feels like just yesterday that I rushed to the hospital after the longest school day of my life. All I wanted to do was MEET you, and it seemed like that moment would never come.

It’s been eight whole weeks since that first day, and there is no doubt in my mind that each time I see you I fall more in love with your cute little face. It’s only been two months, but each time I see you, you’re a completely new little baby. You’re growing up so fast and your personality is already starting to shine through. I may be biased, but you are one seriously good looking newborn child. Everywhere you go, other mamas follow you around to get a glimpse at your big, curious eyes and adorable smile. Which, by the way, is a brand new thing you do! I love that I can lie you down, hold your head and as soon as I start to talk to you, you start to giggle.

I can’t wait to tell you these little stories as you get older- the way you seem to be learning certain people’s voice and maybe faces, the way you love to be held like a bag of potatoes (seriously, over the shoulder like a bag. of. potatoes.) and the way you make this cute little fishy face when you’re concentrating on something or when you’re given a pacifier.

Before you got here, everyone was so excited to meet you. Even though we saw your mama’s tummy getting bigger and bigger as you grew, it still seemed like the most surreal thing in the world to think that you were actually on your way, and that one day you’d be a part of all our lives and be adored by so many people. I loved the idea of you before you got here, but now that I’ve actually met you and I know you’re really and truly in this world, it is crazy how much I love YOU, even though you’re only beginning to grasp the idea of the people in your life. Just wait until you get older, you’ll see what kind of love your family has for you.

Everyone has a different nickname for you, but I think my favorite (besides mine, you’re my little fishy) is your mom’s- she calls you her little blueberry! You have the roundest, most adorable face and the cutest cheeks ever. Your dad kind of bit you once because he couldn’t hold himself back. He didn’t hurt you, it was all out of love :)

I can’t believe your life has only just gotten started. We have so many more things to learn about you, and you have SO many things to learn about this planet. So far it has been a LOT of fun being your auntie, and I basically just want to spoil the daylights out of you already! I love seeing you grow a little every day, and I can’t wait to see what new and exciting thing you learn when I see you next.

Talk to you soon, baby boy.

Love,

Auntie Melissa
xox

5 weeks- You fell right asleep when I picked you up! :)

6 weeks- We were just hanging out at your place and you were chilling, looking cute as usual.

 Sleepover night! This was around 6am, you were hanging out in grandma’s arm with your adorable little round face

 You love the camera, seriously. Look at that face! I could eat you up!

On… Friendships

 

There are some moments in my life that have been made infinitely better and more special because of my friends. Many of my closest friendships began a decade ago (if not more), so we’ve all been through a considerable amount together.

Friends come and go, I know that. I gain friends every once in a while that I know will be around for a long time, and sometimes I lose friends because of silly arguments, or even bigger ones. This is all part of life, often the loss of friendships taking quite a toll on my emotional state. 

Some days though, I’m reminded of why I consider my best friends part of my family. Some days I’m reminded that there’s a reason that certain people are in my life- despite big fights and moments spent apart, we always come back together to support each other and live through life’s biggest moments together.

This week I’ve had a lot of friendships go under a magnifying glass. Every once in a while this happens, and it sucks, really. Maybe it’s just a girl thing, but we invest so much of our time and emotion into the people we let in our hearts, it’s no wonder that when something happens to make us question those people we let in, we become bitter, resentful and just overall upset. I find myself getting this way from time to time and I remind myself that it’s all out of love. Those who matter always come around.

That being said though, today was one of those days that tested some of my best friendships, and through a mixture of smiles and tears, I came out on the other side happy to have these people by my side. I hate that it was a tragedy that brought us back together, if even for a few hours, but it did show me that no matter what words were exchanged in the last months, the love we all share for one another- the history we all have together- prevails. No matter what, we can put our differences aside and just be there for each other.

I sat in between two girls who mean the world to me in a place that makes me literally cringe, and through heavy words and with heavy hearts we were there for one another to lean on. We shared looks that said a thousand words, we provided comfort to those who needed it, and we all hugged… A lot.

I miss the days when friendships were easy. Some days I feel like I’m losing more friends than I’m gaining, and for absolutely no reason at all. But then I remember the day that my best friend gave me a hug and I burst into tears in her arms, or the day that I got a card with just the right words, or even today, the day that I sat with two of my closest friends to support our fourth through a really hard time, and I know that through gains and losses, the friends I have today are here to stay.

What was my points’ balance? Cue the heart attack.

I was doing some online banking this morning (and cringing at my credit card balance, as I often do) when I had a great idea. What if I could redeem the points on my credit card for a gift card towards paying off what I owe to MasterCard?

I thought this was the most magical idea, so I created an account on their Rewards website to see what could be done. This is what greeted me when my account opened up:

No, that is not 100 points per dollar, or 10 points per dollar. That is ONE POINT PER DOLLAR. How have I spent that much money since turning 18? That wasn’t even FIVE years ago. My mind can’t wrap itself around this number. I’m a struggling student constantly attempting to pay off debt, and here I am wasting away my hard earned money.

You know how sometimes specialists say that when you’re living an *extreme* lifestyle that sees no bounds, the only way to stop yourself is by realizing you’re doing something WRONG? I often associate this with not eating well- when someone is unhealthy enough they will decide they’ve had enough and make a change- well you guys, I’ve had enough. I’m tired of spending LOADS of money that could be going towards things that matter.

How many of those points come from coffee or random dinners, movies and other things I could easily cut down on? My guess is at least half.

I’ve tried to budget myself many times before, but this morning as I shopped on the rewards website, somewhat laughing at the ridiculousness of the fact that I could buy almost anything I wanted, I realized it was time to make a change for REAL. Enough lack of willpower, enough giving in to Starbucks just *one more time*.

I know that I’ve gotten much MUCH better with my money in the last year, but I’m still nowhere near my goal of being a conservative spender. I don’t need a lot to live happily- I prefer to spend my money on traveling, on gifts, basic needs, and on saving for a decent life when I move out. My cinnamon dolce latte might make me happy in the morning, but add all those lattes up and the sum makes me feel like crap.

My points’ balance was just what I needed to see to jump start my budgeting again. I realize I’m in the middle of Christmas shopping, but there are still changes I can make as of this moment, and I plan to. Why start fresh in January to do something that I can do today? I’m so tired of making up excuses for myself.

It’s time to grow up a little bit and make choices that will benefit me in the long-term, not just fix my caffeine withdrawals.

Oh, and if you’re wondering what I’ll be doing with those points? I’m still debating it, but I think I’m going to redeem them as a check for my savings account. That feels like at least a little bit of good karma to get me started!

Have you ever had a breaking point that made you want to change something in your life dramatically?

Holocaust Literature

I’ve mentioned a few times that I took a Holocaust literature class this semester and was really excited about my (fairly long) book list that came long with it. Now that the class is finished I thought I’d just re-cap all the books I read really quick for anyone who’s interested in learning more about it but isn’t sure where to start! All in all, the class was incredibly educational but to be honest I often started my days off more depressed than anything. I don’t regret taking the course at all though, I’ve always wanted to learn more about what happened during the Holocaust and I feel much more knowledgeable about the subject as well as the literature involved in it now.

1. Night by Elie Wiesel. If you haven’t read this book, you just have to. It won a Nobel Peace Prize for a reason, people. Truly amazing story and a very interesting background too. Wiesel wrote the book originally in his native language, Yiddish, where it was basically a huge book hating on the Germans. Over time and translation, it became the slim paperback that you now purchase in stores. Very sad, but very powerful.

Possibly the most haunting author image in a book I’ve ever seen. [Wiesel]

2. Survival in Auschwitz by Primo Levi. I learned a LOT from Primo’s autobiography. He was actually an Italian who survived the war and actually walked from Poland all the way back home afterwards (he writes about it in his second book to the one I read). This one is a very straightforward narration of his time in Auschwitz and his liberation, although also very powerful in its own way.

3. This Way For The Gas, Ladies & Gentlemen by Tadeusz Borowski. This book was… Interesting. I have to admit there were some parts that I read completely captivated (the two first chapters/stories among the best) and at other points I was really confused. Borowski writes about a guy called Tadek and *his* imprisonment in Auschwitz, although it’s assumed that he IS Tadek and just uses that name for his writing. His story is incredibly sad and moving- he was imprisoned because his girlfriend at the time (a rebel) was caught and put in Auschwitz and he couldn’t bear to be apart from her, so he purposely got caught and also imprisoned. They kept contact throughout their time in the camp & after the liberation they found each other again and got married. Unfortunately Borowski went a little crazy after the war and soon after the birth of his first child he committed suicide by inhaling gas from a stove. UGH. So depressing, I know. But definitely worth a read, if you’re interested in the Holocaust.

4. The Black Seasons by Michal Glowinski. You can’t find this book in any bookstore because it’s independently published, but I don’t particularly recommend this one unless you’re taking a course on the Holocaust. Although pretty interested by the time I got to it, I had a lot of trouble finishing the story. Glowinski was only 7-9 years old during the war and writes only from his memory as a 50 year old scholar. Interesting point of view, although not really an informative text. He is a phenomenal writer though.

5. MAUS by Art Spiegelman. This two-part graphic novel is, in one word, AMAZING. 100% must read for anyone. I breezed through both of them in two days, I was completely captivated by the story, the characters, the imagery… Basically everything. I highly recommend reading them both as they’re quite small books and a relatively fast read for anyone. Not only are they packed with information, but Spiegelman does an amazing job of portraying his life and his father’s. He writes about his mother and father’s imprisonment at Auschwitz through images, and he associates all of the difference races with a different animal. I love the way his illustrations complement the story he chose to write, and to anyone who’s confused about exactly what happened in the 1940′s to the Jewish race, this is the perfect set of two books to learn from.

Spiegelman’s author picture in the jacket of his graphic novels! 

Along with these 6 books, I also read a full 200 page course kit that was filled with excerpts from various other books written by survivors. One in particular that I’m interested in hunting down is by a female survivor called Charlotte Delbo. Her writing completely fascinated and haunted me, and I’d love to see what her book is like.

So, to re-cap if you skipped to this paragraph: you need to read Night, Survival in Auschwitz, This Way For The Gas & Complete MAUS. All amazing books about this time period and I genuinely feel like I learned a LOT because of them. I’m going to take a small break from all this super depressing reading to get back to some of the stuff that’s been sitting on my bookshelf, but I definitely plan on picking up a few more titles in the New Year.

If you’re interested in other (less real and gruesome) stories about the Holocaust, here are some of my fiction recommends:

1. Sarah’s Key by Tatianna De Rosnay

2. The Book Thief by Markus Zusak

3. The Boy in the Striped Pajamas by John Boyne

4. Number the Stars by Lois Lowry

What books do you recommend on the subject? Which ones have you read and liked or disliked? 

Sunday Inspiration + Links v.5

I haven’t done this for the last couple weeks because of school & finals, but I miss browsing the internet for fun links so I took a break from studying to find some fun things worth sharing!

-First, a friend of mine shared this picture with me, and as a huge Hunger Games fan I love it a LOT:

Seriously, how awesome?!

- I love this website. It’s basically like a thesaurus…But cooler. Which is always my best friend when I write because I tend to be really repetitive.

- Lessons I Wished I Had Learned Earlier. This is such a great list, everyone can learn something new!

- I currently want to buy everything on this website. Especially this shirt. You may remember Sheldon wearing it on this week’s Big Bang? Um yeah, want. Why must all the good ones be out of stock!?

- This moving panorama of Paris is AWESOME. As if I don’t want to travel back to Europe enough, this just makes me want to go back right this second.

- 100 Incredible Views Out Of Airplane Windows. Yep, awesomeness. Here are some of my faves:

The Alps

New York. I love views of NY, seriously.

Malaysia

Australia

Okay I’ll stop there, otherwise I may just post all 100. Such a cool collection though!

- Here are some really great ab workouts to substitute (awful) crunches. Easy exercises to do when you wake up, or just before bed! I could get used to doing these.

- Finally, in honor of my going to HP world in February and also because it’s been way too long since I shared HP pictures…

What’s inspiring you lately? Happy Sunday! 

I’m going to be a wizard!

Well, not actually. But ALMOST.

I just booked a 6-day vacation with two of my best friends to Orlando, Florida in February!

I’ve been itching to get back on a plane ever since the day I came home from Greece this summer. I finally have something super exciting to look forward to! We just booked our plane and hotel yesterday, so now we have to buy our tickets for Universal Studios & figure out where else we’d like to go… But I’m just so happy to do a little bit of traveling on my spring break from school.

You’d think that a bunch of twenty-two year olds would be planning a vacation to a beach for their week off, but not the three of us. We’re most excited to be spending some time at the Wizarding World of Harry Potter (where we’re all clearly going to become wizards, making our life dreams come true)!

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I’m basically just going to go around telling everyone that I’m off to Florida to become a wizard until I leave in February. That sounds normal enough, right?

Any suggestions on what to do in Orlando? What were your favorite parts at Universal Studios?

12 Changes

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As 2011 is coming to an end, I’ve been wondering what ways I can make 2012 interesting for myself in terms of goals and accomplishments. At the beginning of the year I gave myself a short list of New Years Resolutions that, much to my surprise, I’ve almost entirely completed. There are a few reasons I started to fail in the last couple months though (namely in the health department) and I couldn’t figure out how to set myself up with a project that could, potentially, keep me motivated throughout the year.

Then, bloggers to the rescue, Stephany and Katherine had a conversation about this EXACT kind of thing and created a project. They’re calling it 12 Changes, and according to Katherine’s blog post about it, there are nearly FORTY bloggers who want to be a part of it. If everyone is committed, I think this could be the coolest thing bloggers have ever come together to do for the sake of feeling better about ourselves.

The project is really simple, it basically states that each month of 2012, you have to make one change in your lifestyle so that by the end of the year you should have changed twelve things and turned them into regular habits. By giving each of these changes one month to take hold, we’re all really hoping that it won’t feel super drastic and dramatic all at once, but by the end of 2012 we’ll have actually done all of these great things.

12 Changes reminds me A LOT of The Happiness Project [by Gretchen Rubin]. I wrote about it a little while ago when I read the book by Gretchen Rubin, and I had completely forgotten about it until 12 Changes came up. When I had originally read The Happiness Project I had REALLY wanted to do something similar for myself (because I love goals and it just sounds like a lot of fun) so I think that Stephany & Katherine’s plan is just perfect.

I still haven’t exactly decided what my 12 changes are going to be, but I think I’m going to make mine look a little bit like a Happiness Project. I love the idea of 12 changes, one per month, but this is by no means a happiness project for me. I much prefer the name that was given to our blogger project.

I’m playing around with the idea of getting rid of my usual monthly goals, and instead focusing my energy each month on my given “change”. In each one of my goals, I’m going to have sub-goals, and I think I’ll instead make THOSE my monthly plans.

I haven’t fully decided what I want my list to look like yet, but I do have an idea of what each month is going to be about. Here’s what I have so far:

January: healthy eating
February: fitness
March: budgeting
April: procrastination
May: goals
June: friendships
July: personal living
August: mindfulness (or being open-minded)
September: school
October: organization
November: family
December: round-up (putting it all into practice)

I had originally come up with a list of 12 habits I wanted to improve upon, but then I remembered how inspired I was by the Happiness Project, so I took a few helpful tips from Gretchen Rubin & now I can instead incorporate my current lists of goals into my resolutions for 2012.

I’m currently super motivated to make this list the most work-able set of resolutions I’ve ever made. I’m excited to choose 2-4 smaller goals within each of the months to work on, and hopefully in the process cross off the remaining goals in my 101 in 1,001 (it ends in 2012!) and my 23 Before 23 (it ends in July!). Next year is going to be a BUSY year for me, but with this blogger project I’m beginning to think I’ll be ready to take it on.

I can’t wait to share more details with you, and if you have any other ideas, tips or things you think I should add in, let me know! If you’d like to be a part of 12 Changes, it’s super easy. You can leave a comment below and I can get you in touch with Steph or Katherine, or if you know them then just e-mail them directly and they’ll let you know what’s going on! 

How do you feel about New Year’s Resolutions? Do you ever stick to yours? Are you going to make any this year?!

Four Years…

Yesterday I headed downtown with Jenia because I won a meet & greet with The New Cities. We made a lot of jokes about it because we honestly didn’t NEED to win- we’ve met the Montreal band dozens of times- but now that they’re getting bigger and more well known, we thought why not? Let’s just go!

We’re not the kind of fans who constantly ask for pictures with the guys. We just love going to shows, hanging out for a bit afterwards to say hi, and to letting them know we were there & it was awesome. I’ve been going to see them play since February 2008, back in the day when there were only 5 or 6 people there to see THEM. Me and two of my best friends have been there through all of it, and I think we can all agree that it’s been crazy and amazing to see them become the band they are today.

February 2008:

September 2008: 

December 2011: 

It’s been an incredibly fun four years, that’s for sure. I fell in love with the music industry because of this band, I basically grew up going to their shows. I can distinctly remember the different me from four years ago, and it’s indescribable. Their music has always been fun and filled with memories. Even though the three of us don’t have as much time or money to dedicate to road trips and shows, we’ve still had some amazing times together traveling for their music.

In big part, it has to do with these guys. We might joke about getting to *meet them*, but really, it’s kind of cool to see the different people we’ve all become over time!

Have you ever had an artist influence your life positively over the years? 

1 Year, 23 Goals

Since creating my 23 Before 23 Goals on July 10th 2011, I pretty much haven’t talked about them whatsoever. I’ve been working on them and updating the page in my nav bar that I have for them, but half the point of having them around here is to write about my accomplishments (…and my failures).

I thought I would take some time to review the goals I’ve accomplished, the ones I’m working on, and the things I’ve learned from trying to accomplish so many *big* goals in 365 days.

Accomplished Goals

1. Take the trip of a lifetime. I went to Greece this summer, which you can read all about here!

2. Write a letter to myself on the day off my 22nd birthday to open on the day of my 23rd. As the goal says, I wrote it on the day of my birthday. I still vaguely remember what I wrote to myself, but not in detail. Also? It’s really hard to write yourself a letter. I think I have 3 now that are waiting to be opened in the future.

17. Take a University class I’m interested in, even if it doesn’t fit my degree. I wrote about this goal back in September, actually. I took a Holocaust Literature class which I paid for out of my pocket & does not count towards my degree. I’ve always been fascinated with that time period- in the least morbid way possible- and was interested in learning more about it as well as reading books about the subject that I had never previously heard of. I’m still *in* the class right now actually, my 2 finals are on December 16th. Overall, I learned a LOT about this class. The books were for the most part incredibly fascinating. The class as a whole is REALLY hard. There’s a lot of work involved and I was expecting it to be a lot easier because I already had a good background. I think that makes this goal even better, because it wasn’t what I expected at all and I was still able to accomplish it!

20. Watch all the seasons of a TV show I’ve never seen before. This was a really FUN goal to accomplish considering I have a serious TV addiction. I’m just about done with season 3 of CASTLE and then I’ll basically be all caught up. The show is currently in it’s 4th season. I’ve really enjoyed watching it- season 2 was amazing- but so far season 3 has been kind of boring. I’m hoping it picks back up at some point because right now I find it’s just like every other cop show out there. I am a huge fan of the cast of the show and I think they do a great job of keeping the cases interesting, but I wish there was more character development in each episode.

Working On…

11. Get rid of a bad habit. I’m a girl with many bad habits, to be honest. I had a few specific ones in mind when I wrote this goal out (in particular stop cracking all my joints or stop biting my nails) but I’ve managed to work on other aspects of myself that I wanted to improve. I don’t know when I’ll officially cross it off, but so far it’s still considered *in progress*.

12. Read 10 biographies about people who changed the world. So far I’ve read 6, and that is mostly thanks to my Holocaust Literature class this semester. My teacher gave us an amazing reading list filled with incredibly influential biographies, so I’m very grateful to him for that. I have a few more on my bookshelf that I’m just itching to pick up, and I just know this goal will be done in no time. You can see the list of the ones I’ve read on the goals page!

13. Buy a scrapbook and put it together for myself. The week I came home from Greece I bought a scrapbook and all the necessary materials to put it together, but I haven’t found any time to make it so far. I know the scrapbook will be about my trip, I just need to print out those photos and get it done!

18. Participate in Project 365. Originally, the goal was to participate from the day of my birthday until the following year on my birthday. It went super well to begin with, but when I went to Greece I lost track of which picture was for which day on my camera and I gave up. I recently picked up the project again and have been keeping up with it on my Facebook page. It’s much easier that way & super easy to upload, instead of making blog posts out of it. Hopefully I can stick with it until the end of my list next July! It won’t be over until November 2012, but if I stick to it until July I’ll consider it worthy of crossing off.

23. Support 10 lesser known musicians/artists & buy their record instead of downloading it. I’ve currently bought 5 albums of lesser known musicians, and I’ve felt great about it each time. My bank account maybe not-so much, but I’m always happier knowing I’m supporting something I love so much! Again, you can see the list on my goals page (linked above).

Lessons and Moving Forward

Writing this post has reminded me how FAR BEHIND I am on this list. One year is not nearly enough to complete 23 goals… Or rather it is, I’m just not dedicating enough time towards it. I don’t think I overshot any of my goals, I actually put a lot of thought into things that I thought I’d be able to do in the next year of my life. Moving forward, I want to make a lot more time for the other 13 goals that I haven’t thought of.

My current problem is that a lot of them need money, which I don’t have. When I wrote the list of goals, I wanted to make them more fun so that I didn’t feel like I had a bunch of chores to do. Now I’m wondering if I didn’t properly consider the money I would need to accomplish them all, as well as the time.

I definitely haven’t changed my mind about any of these goals. I still want them all crossed off by July 10th 2012… I just need to shift my focus and make sure that if this is what I want to accomplish, then I’m doing everything in my power to do that. Right now, I know I’m not.

Have you ever made a list of goals to accomplish before your next birthday? What did you learn from it?